By: Kathleen Burton, Ph.D.
Any life changing event such as job loss or being underemployed, can be, and often is, a shock to your whole system. You can experience some of the same feelings and stresses that you would if you were seriously injured, going through a divorce, or grieving the loss of a loved one. Under/unemployment issues do not discriminate and cut across all ages, race, sex, education, and economic status. Life is forever changed and you may experience all or some of the stages of grief just as you would with any other major loss. You are not alone and the grief response is a normal reaction to loss and is the way to begin to accept the reality of the loss or traumatic event.
While each person will experience and process loss differently, there are commonalities—intense feelings of loss, shock, anger, denial, depression, loneliness, fear, frustration, desperation, shame, guilt, discouragement, and worthlessness. The worry and anxiety about how you are going to pay the bills at times can be overwhelming. Other adverse health effects of being under/unemployed have been correlated with higher rates of disability, obesity, suicide, lack of preventative medical care, low birth-weight babies, and poor diet. Interspersed will be feelings of hope and excitement and these will also come and go while looking for a new job.
Because “life goes on” during this already difficult time, it is important to remember that under/unemployment can also be further complicated by the Holidays, continued losses of loved ones, existing health issues, going into and managing debt, the feeling of loss of not being able to more, and the continued unexpected daily things we all normally experience.
Studies have also shown a lack of understanding among healthcare professionals of the benefits of work and initiatives are under way to help healthcare professionals understand the links between work and health and that under/unemployment have real and negative impacts on people’s mental and physical health, as well as society. It is crucial that all who are in helping professions to be mindful of this when offering advice and support to people with all types of health conditions.
Reaching out for support and sharing difficulties can help problems seem less frightening and helps us to be more realistic about what is happening, giving us a better perspective on how to move forward. Talk to trusted family, friends, and colleagues about the problems you are facing. Their care and support can help you cope as well as deepen your relationship with them. You will see that you are important to them whether or not you have a job. They will want to help in anyway they can, besides helping you find a new job. If you have a family, get everyone involved in making plans on how they can help as well as cope with a reduced income.
Seek out community resources. You have a right to claim unemployment/social service benefits and there is nothing wrong about doing so. Besides reducing regular living and utility expenses, search out sources of low-cost/no cost entertainment, recreation, medical help, food and clothing. Look for local organizations, programs, and professionals that provide programs designed to assist under/unemployed people find jobs, help with confidence, feelings of loss and stress, and improving job search skills. Also, look for self-help and support groups and continue to take care of your health.
The following are some strategies that will help you take control of stress:
- Establish a daily routine that includes a regular time for job search activities. Remember to maintain recreation and leisure time for yourself. Set daily goals that you know you can accomplish and keep busy and stay active. Isolating yourself can lead to additional mental and emotional stress. Go for a walk, go to the library, call a friend, volunteer to help someone else (to name a few), and continue to network.
- Tell everyone you feel comfortable with what kind of work you are looking for, and ask if they know of any jobs or any companies that employ people with your skills. Trusted friends, relatives and even acquaintances can make great contacts for you. Remember, many people get their jobs through “word of mouth.”
- Before you end your day, prepare a written plan for the next day. It will help keep your goals on track; and when you’re feeling down, you will have something concrete to refer back to that shows your accomplishments.
- Check into new career opportunities or the possibility of continuing your education.
- Keep regular hours, get regular exercise and rest. Limit your intake of caffeine, cigarettes and alcohol; and be sure to reward yourself on a regular basis.
- Read some books, take a workshop on, or talk with someone about stress management techniques. Anger, for example, can be a biggie especially when feeling things are out of your control or not going your way. Things can be said or done that can have long term effects. Don’t be too hard on yourself and just know that learning effective stress management skills could save you, your family, and friends from additional emotional strain.
- Pray. Studies have shown that there is something to be said about the “power of prayer”, even intercessory prayer. Prayer is positive, constructive, and healing. It strengthens faith and hope for a better tomorrow. Having a spiritual life can benefit mental and physical health, no matter your spiritual orientation.
Research has shown that when individuals are able to provide for their basics needs this boosts self-esteem and quality of life. Besides boosting self-esteem and quality of life, work also enhances relationships, provides daily structure and an overall sense of health and wellbeing. It provides a sense of purpose. Losing your job doesn’t mean automatic psychological or physical ruin. The best news of all is that the research evidence notes that these effects can be reversed. When people return to work and able to meet their financial obligations, their health improves significantly. Most importantly, keep in mind that these are all aspects of loss that others have experienced, endured and survived.
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Unemployment can be a mixed bag. It can be a downright good thing if the job you’re getting away from is extremely difficult and unpleasant,” Dooley said. “It’s not surprising that some people report that they’re satisfied. They’re finding useful and beneficial things to do with their increased time.”
Life Skills and Stress Reduction Group for HIV/Aids Individuals
This group covers topics on such issues as life skills, anxiety, phobias, panic disorders, obsessive-compulsive disorder, depression, relationship, recovery issues, and other topics as determined by group members.
Meets the 1st and 3rd Tuesday of the month at 2:30 p.m. (Board Room)
St. Augustine Manor
7801 Detroit Avenue
Cleveland, Ohio 44102
For more information contact Kathleen Burton Ph.D., DCBT at 216-240-1215
Stress/Anxiety Support GroupFeeling a little overwhelmed? Feeling down and out? Experiencing a life transition or crisis? A self-help group for people experiencing stress (anxiety, phobias, panic, depression) and related concerns is open to anyone interested in a better life. The group is free and voluntary donations are welcome.
Meets the 1st and 3rd Tuesday of each month at 6:30-8p.m.
St. Luke Church
1212 Bunts Rd.
Lakewood, Oh 44107
For further information contact: Kathleen Burton, Ph.D., DCBT at 216-240-1215